Are You Overwhelmed This Time of Year? (Then Do This)

How is it almost 2017?! As we begin to embrace the reality that 2016 is almost over, if you are anything like me, you began to look at what the new year has to offer. I’m not huge on resolutions, but I do set some goals and try to make them happen.


This time last year I was writing out a list of goals and preparing for the new year. One goal I wrote down was to consistently blog throughout each week. I didn’t have the perfect topic to write about, I just wanted to spread ideas of hope and healing. (more…)

No, I Will Not Forgive You!

Extending forgiveness sucks when someone hurts you. It’s hard, and in certain situations, feels impossible. I’m learning there is no clear cut path to forgiveness, but there are a few steps that we can begin to take.

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This year I was deeply hurt by someone very close to me. To this day I can still hear his words echoing in my head. Words that ripped me apart and left my heart in pieces. And to think, this was coming from someone I loved, trusted, and respected. (more…)

Does God Really Have Our Best Interest In Mind?

Being a dad is scary. Over the past two years of being a father, I’ve learned a lot about myself. Seeing the world through the eyes of my daughter has taught me many lessons about love, trust, and faith. It also has given me a glimpse into how God sees and loves me. It’s an interesting paradigm shift, but a much-needed one.

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Remember the shape sorter? The toy where you match a cube to a hole of the same shape. The other day Story and I were sorting through the circles and stars when she began to struggle. After a few failed attempts she looked at me and said, “Help me, Dada”.  (more…)

Seriously, It’s Ok To Be Honest About Life Right Now

Life just doesn’t seem to work sometimes, does it? No matter how hard we try, the dots don’t seems to connect and allow us to move forward. Our thoughts our cloudy. Relationships are hard. Work seems meaningless, leaving us unfulfilled. It’s just hard. This is a frustrating reality but maybe it’s ok.

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Confession: This week has been rough. Nothing monumental or life changing happened, it just all feels off. I am lacking motivation and the desire to keep pushing forward on everything that is in front of me. It all feels to be in a fog that just isn’t lifting. I wouldn’t call it depression (because I know that’s a real struggle many people deal with on daily bases) but it is an overwhelming feeling that leaves me unable to gain the traction I feel is necessary. (more…)

Simple Lessons On How To Discover Your Calling

Do you struggle to know (and live) your purpose? Are you frustrated and unsure of what to do next? If so, you are not alone. In fact, there is a statistic that says 87% of employees are board at work, and 500,000 say they wish they had picked a different major. So what can we do in order to begin to live the life we always dreamed of living?


This past year I have thought a lot about my purpose and what I offer the world. I have felt that most of my life I have just coasted and never really embraced my calling. Not really knowing where to begin I simply began to research how to find your purpose, calling, and meaning.  (more…)

Have We Lost The Art of Silence

We live in a very noisy world. It’s a truth you don’t often realize until you find yourself in a quiet place. Silence is almost deafening. It feels awkward and unnatural. But I’m beginning to learn that the art of silence is life changing.


For as long as I can remember I have slept with a fan on. The reason I do is not to keep cool. It’s so the room isn’t completely silent. I’m not sure when I started doing this, but I have come to live by it. (more…)

The Importance of a Positive Mental Attitude

Have you ever stopped to think about what you’re thinking about? As weird as that sounds it’s really important to pay attention to what we are dwelling on. Too often our thoughts lead us down a path we never intended to be on. That’s why I believe it’s super important to have and keep a positive mental attitude.

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In 2005 I was the Intern Coordinator for a local youth group here in Indianapolis. The youth pastor, who was a good friend of mine, would start every day by walking in and announcing… (more…)

Maybe It’s Time To See Your Problems As A Blessing

Have you ever just wanted out of your situation? Desperately longing for it all to be over so you can simply move on. It’s in those moments when God feels distant and uninterested. But what if that isn’t exactly true?

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My dad is a math genius. An accountant by trade, he really understands numbers and how to make them work for you. If this tells you anything, he is the kind of guy who can type on a calculator without even looking at it. That’s superhuman if you ask me.  (more…)

Why Accepting Your Story Is So Important

I love stories. I’ll listen to anything Don Miller teaches about story. I try to be a better storyteller. I even named my daughter story. So when it comes to living my story I’m learning that it is very easy for me to change myself into a character I was never meant to be.

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When I was in junior high there were a couple of kids in my class I wanted as friends. They seemed cool and fun to hang around. All of my other classmates respected them and I wanted to be just like them.  (more…)

How To Embrace Your Pain

Stop and think about the last time you thought about pain in a way that was positive. You probably haven’t. No, pain is something we try to avoid at all costs. But what if we began to see the purpose in our pain and started using it to fuel us forward? I believe it’s possible.

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I don’t have a very high pain tolerance. In fact, growing up I was alway more worried about getting hurt than having a fun adventure. From bicycle ramps to tackle football, I was good just watching from the sidelines.  (more…)